Friday, October 31, 2008

Another Week Gone By...

Why do I feel like I am wishing my life away? We made it through another work week...well, we have Friday to go, but does it really count?

RQ is reporting that the cut-off might be February 20th. That's exciting that we are in, yet sad that it's still such a small batch. I feel sad for my friends, who, after referrals come out, will still be waiting to see the faces of their precious children.

It's sad because loss is at the heart of adoption. The triad ~ birthparents, adoptive parents, and especially the child ~ have lost so much. For Kaelie, this will mean that she will have lost the opportunity to be raised in her country of birth. It means for her that she will grow up in a minority, multi-cultural family. Her birthmother will have lost, whether by choice or not, the chance to raise the child she carried in her womb for nine months. How have adoptive parents experienced loss in the adoption triad, you might ask? The ability, as in our case, to carry and birth our biological children. Adoption for us hasn't been, and never will be, a second choice, but more along the lines of the "road less traveled."

Adoption is about love. First and foremost, the ability of a birthmother to love a child so much that she is willing to create an adoption plan for the child she carried for 9 months. A child who was hopefully created in an act of love and passion. I cannot begin to fathom the depths of that love, a love which will transcend time, and distance, a love that can leave a birthfamily wondering for a lifetime about a child they will not be able to raise. The love that the adoptee will be able to feel, the love of two families, one known and one only dreamed of. I figure that if we do our jobs as adoptive parents correctly, these children of ours will grow to love and respect their birth families for the opportunity that they gave to them. The love of the adoptive mother and father is immeasurable! As I've raised these two magnificient boys, I sometimes think I can't love them any more, but it's just amazing, it keeps growing and growing!

OK, getting off my soapbox...

Here's another fun Blogthing for you to do while you wait, ever so patiently, with me for news of referrals. I can't believe that it is finally here! There is so much to do!

You Passed 8th Grade Geography

Congratulations, you got 8/10 correct!


Mike and Rhonda said...

Beautiful Post Karen!

hiltonsheadeast said...

Won't be long now, KK!!


Alyson & Ford said...

It is all about the children and I want China to speed up!! This rots that only January & February 2006 will complete this year!!

Mommy to Alyzabeth since 09/16/08!
LID 01/27/06

Jen Talley said...

AHHHH Karen!!! referrals are in europe!!! So excted for you guys can't wait to see her sweet face!!!

cheepette8 said...

I am so excited for you guys and can't wait to see that you finally got your referral. It seems like so long ago when we met at Hard Labor Creek.

White family said...

My baby is wearing the same outfit and sitting in the same chair and from the same orphanage as your baby! Our babies were friends!!!